December 1st, 2014
|04:41 pm - Need to vent|
And this feels like the most appropriate space.
Yes, of course it's tragic that Phillip Hughes has died, and it is pretty shocking that even cricket, of all sports, can be lethal, and all sympathies to his family and friends.
But OMG the Manpain.
If anyone was planning to bottle manpain for, Idunno, Xmas presents, there's more than enough coming out of Australia's sports journalists this week. I don't know if Offsiders is available to view outside Australia, but there's a good solid hour of manpain.
Amazingly, despite the intensity of the masculine struggle with emoting sadness on that show, I found it less offensive than Tony Abbott's short speech on the subject. He managed to make me feel like I am supposed to hand in my citizenship because I am not a huge cricket fan. None of the cricketers or journos I've heard talk about Hughes' death did that, they talk about the loss to cricket, not Austraya's National Game.
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July 26th, 2014
|02:45 pm - The trickiest bit|
So in the midst of the Wiscon/Frenkel thing, and all the great advice about not using judicial approaches to Con safety, but more health and well-being, and needing small teams that act quickly, and some great advice from Geek Feminism and The Ada Project, what I'm not seeing is anyone addressing the really tricky bit:
What happens when you discover your friend is a creep?
Because the most dangerous harrassers are the ones who have lots of friends. You, and I, are friends right now with at least one someone whose unsavoury side we don't know about or are trying to pretend we don't know about, because that's how common they are, and how many friends they have.
I don't have any answers myself. I'm still just trying to get better at recognising dangerous people and not hiding from those facts as I learn them.
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January 16th, 2013
|08:13 pm - Chally Kacelnik on patriarchy|
Mainly links for my benefit, in case I have to point other people to it.
The quote about patriarchy that is floating around Facebook etc unattributed is due to Chally Kacelnik, and she'd prefer to be acknowledged as the author.
There's an attributed version of the quote here.
The original post the quote comes from is here, at her Zero at the Bone blog.
And Chally writes about the problem here.
I do wonder if I'm the only person on the planet who read that last post, wondered what it was all about, and then only many months later saw the unattributed quote "in the wild", and thought "Ah-hah! That must be the one."
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August 30th, 2012
|09:44 am - Atheism+ vs Humanism|
I'm following the creation of the Atheism+ movement (social justice, or at least no tolerance for misogyny etc, in your atheism) and a common objection to the term in comments is "but that's just Humanism!" Many people have tried to explain reasonably the many ways it's not true. Here's my snarky unreasonable explanation:
Every objector who's said "but that's just Humanism!" is, as far as I can tell: white, male, straight, etc.
I'd be willing to believe that Atheism+ was just Humanism if there were heaps of women turning up in comments saying "we've been doing this in Humanism for years, I have no idea why you Atheist women have been putting up with the misogyny in Atheism so long, come join us!". And similarly for QUILTBAG'ers, people of colour, etc. It's apparently only really white men who have that impression of Humanism (or perhaps, are the only public face of Humanism), which means they don't understand what Atheism+ is supposed to be.
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December 18th, 2011
|03:01 pm - Marriage equality and test|
This is mostly a test post of a link that's causing trouble for me over at Hoyden about Town.
It might also be of interest to anyone interested in marriage equality and the opposition's arguing style.
Bonus link: please think for the children - I may want to refer to this in future.
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July 13th, 2011
|08:23 pm - Mad at the online world|
That's not why I haven't been posting, but it seems apt enough.
Google don't seem to understand what "don't be evil" means when it comes to Google+. Apparently privileged white dudes who never do anything their employers* might frown on, or have political views different from them, are the only important, interesting people on the 'net. Or they're happy talking privately about those things, and feel no need to make connections to others they don't already know who share those activities or opinions. I am certainly making inferences about what Google's staff looks like from this, and it's not pretty to my eyes.
I still haven't worked out what would be lost to the world if it was the default social standard that no-one, ever, at any time of day, propositioned strangers in elevators. I really hope all those atheists bemoaning the lack of women in the movement are noticing the number of women saying "I'm an atheist, but this sort of thing is why I steer clear of movement atheism". Greta Christina thinks this is a little problem that can be nipped in the bud early - to me it looks like there are more cool feminist atheist women who've given up on movement atheism, or never joined it, than in it, which suggests too late to me. (I agree completely with her point that if you're vigorously defending your right to do something which is completely counterproductive to your stated aim, it's not about your stated aim).
And he who shall not be named seems to be acting even weirder than usual, or is that just me?
*Or other people/corporations in relative positions of power over them.
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March 25th, 2011
|08:25 pm - Peeeeeeved|
So, these days, I post on DW and cross-post to LJ, with comments only at DW. This means I've mostly missed out on a lot of the increasing spam comment problems on LJ (not the least of which is that many people now don't get comment notifications, which to me destroys a particularly important part of the purpose of the LJ/DW style).
But I wanted to make a post to debunkingwhite today. I composed my post, checked it fairly carefully, and then tried to add appropriate tags. This involved some fiddling with my NoScript settings (I don't want to link to FaceBook, thanks, and the various other new things LJ thinks I should want to do) - whereupon the interface ate the entire post I'd just composed.
So I guess I won't be posting to communities on LJ anymore, because that's just too non-functional for me.
I can sort of understand that a lot of people are reluctant to move because most of their friends are still on LJ (inertia) or some kind of political issue with DW (but apparently not with LJ, which I really don't get), but from my perspective, increasingly LJ simply doesn't work, and from here it looks like it's just going to get less and less functional.
(On debunkingwhite, I wanted to comment on the racism (and to some extent incongruity with the text) of the picture here.)
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March 23rd, 2011
|02:39 pm - Book un-rec|
So, someone gave me Mister Pip by Lloyd Jones ("The multi-award winning international bestseller") at some point, and I picked it up and read it recently.
( I guess I should put the rest under cut in case anyone cares about spoilersCollapse )
My summary: massive white dude fail.
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March 14th, 2011
|07:47 pm - Moah colonialism|
So, I mentioned at the beginning of my critique of V as colonialism that I was sure PoC who've been subjected to colonialism could talk about it better than I could, and indeed, that's happened.
If you haven't, please read this excellent post by deepad about colonialism and if you have time, sanguinity's post (at least) mentioned in it.
I agree strongly with specifically this, and it applies well to V:
I do not believe in SFF produced by the dominant majority to be the key that would unlock its wells of empathy and understanding realisation at its own culpability. I think we are far better served by playing with fantasies that help us practise what it is like to recognise ourselves as oppressors and fight ourselves and our systems. After all, it is not that the colonised did not have enough stories of resistance to inspire them to become heroes. The problem was that the colonialists did not have enough stories of repentance and rethinking to prevent them from becoming monsters.
( white person living in Australia stream of consciousnessCollapse )
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March 5th, 2011
|03:58 pm - Mud does wash off, eventually|
Yes, I know, Brisbane River flooding mud is the most interesting subject in the universe, but since I had already been writing about it and people have commented, I felt this update was in order.
As far as I can tell, most of the mud on the leaves of the trees below the flood line is now washed off, based on my walk this morning (it was overcast, and the effect was always more obvious in bright sunshine). It rained quite a bit yesterday, and that must have done the trick. I don't quite understand why - we've had plenty of other rain since the flooding. Perhaps because it was fine, quiet rain - the previous rain has tended to be larger drops and with much more wind? It's not what I'd have guessed myself as being the kind of rain required for the job.
On the other hand, it looks like some of the leaves that were heavily mudded might now be dying, so we could be in for a whole new set of flood aftereffects.
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